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Human Has Both Good & Bad Qualities

Putting People on a Pedestal
When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,” the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is—a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise.

Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is.

We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals—we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships.

Source: Daily Om

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Laugh Out Loud

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Laugh Out Loud to keep the age lines away.


Actress Urvashi Sharma is a picture of happiness. Research has shown that a good laugh also increases your intake of oxygen, which eases stress

Psychological research has given credence to the old adage Laughter is the best medicine. If not a panacea for all ailments, it’s certainly a good preventative measure that also makes you feel great. The research concludes that whenever we laugh we release a wave of chemicals in the body including the endorphin hormone, which is also released during healthy exercise.

Endorphins are the body’s natural pain-relaxant — they stimulate feelings of well-being, joy and give you a high. In fact, experts opine that your daily laugh quota total should equal at least 15 chuckles a day, or you are under laughed. Does that bring a smile to your face?

So what are the benefits of laughter?
Laughter increases oxygenation of your body at both the cellular and organ level. By laughing, you intake vast amounts of oxygen in huge gulps, and you repeat this process in a sort of temporary hyperventilation session.

Laughter stimulates both sides of the brain to enhance learning. It eases muscle tension and psychological stress, which keeps the brain alert and allows people to retain more information.

Laughter makes us bond and connect socially, our work, marriage and families all need humour and light moments. Have you ever noticed that when one person is laughing, soon everyone around him or her is also laughing? Sometimes you don’t even know what you are laughing about.

Your body feels refreshed and you are ready to continue your day with renewed spirit. When we laugh together, it can bind us closer together instead of pulling us apart.

Laughing also boosts blood circulation, youâ€re exercising abdominal muscles; you’re exercising the muscles of your face; and you’re enhancing the flexibility of various joints throughout your body. So it’s a bit of a physical exercise and healthful body movement as well.

According to the researchers, regular laughter in your life could help to reduce your risk of developing heart disease. They recommend 15 minutes of laughter a day as well as regular exercise to reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease.

Laughing at ourselves and the situation helps reveal that small things are not the earth-shaking events they sometimes seem to be.

Looking at a problem from a different perspective can make it seem less formidable and provide opportunities for greater objectivity and insight. Plus, the good feeling that we get when we laugh can remain with us as an internal experience even after the laughter subsides.

Laughter yoga & laughter clubs
Somewhat similar to traditional yoga, laughter yoga is an exercise which incorporates breathing, yoga, stretching techniques along with laughter. The structured format includes several laughter exercises for a period of 30 to 45 minutes facilitated by a trained individual. Practiced it can be used as supplemental or preventative therapy.

Source: The Times Of India

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