Constantly fighting with your partner over the same thing? It might be worth hanging onto the relationship, with a recent survey finding couples argue less, and get better at resolving differences, with time.
The online survey, by New Zealand counselling firm Relationship Services, polled more than 1,500 couples in long-term relationships and found that 78% were having ongoing disagreements.
But the survey showed that people get better at handling disagreements, with those in relationships for three to seven years reporting a higher level of recurring disagreements than those in relationships lasting 21 years and more.
“People in longer relationships may have sorted out many of their differences, but it was also clear that they handle disagreements in ways that better support the relationship,” said Hilary Smith of Relationship Services on the company’s website.
“For a quarter of people, disagreements and how they dealt with them actually had a positive impact on how they felt about the relationship and their partner,” Smith said.
The survey listed the money and financial security as the issue couples argue about most — four out of 10 people, regardless of income levels.
Parenting and childcare caused 35% of disputes, the survey said, and added strain to a relationship, with 86% of people who have children at home saying they have recurring disagreements, compared with 68% for those without kids.
Other common causes of disagreement are work pressures (31%), time pressures (29%), housework (26%) and sex (25%).
Sources: The Times Of India